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New research on long-term relationships by John Gottman shows that certain factors can predict relationship success with startling accuracy. These same factors can be learned, and those that harm relationships can be unlearned, allowing many previously painful relationships to become whole and fulfilling. A special emphasis is placed on Gottman's concept of "emotional flooding" in which we become overwhelmed with anger, fear, hurt, sadness, or shame, and literally drown in the intensity of our own feelings, and then damage our relationships. Ways to enrich relationships and to emphasize appreciation are also a key part of these tapes. |
